Sorry – such a small word

It's hard to say sorry

I'm sorry

As I write this, the lyrics of Elton John‘s song, “Sorry seems to be the hardest word” comes to mind.  And Elton is right about how hard it is.

Before I get to the point of saying “sorry” I go through various stages, all of which ask me to re-evaluate how secure I am about myself.

Stage 1: Recognition – that a mistake occurred, or that someone was offended and/or hurt.  Sometimes, someone has to tell me because I don’t always spontaneously recognise what I have done.

Stage 2: Humble myself – put myself in the ‘offended’ person’s shoes,

Stage 3: Make a choice – whether to say “sorry” or ignore everything and carry on as if nothing has happened

Stage 3: Seek out the ‘offended’ party, admit what I have recognised, and say “sorry”.

Stage 4: Receive forgiveness – Not everyone will want, or be able to, give me this.  For me, I need to know that I have been forgiven.  However, if it is not forthcoming, then need to accept myself as I have done all I can to resolve and end the situation.

Saying “sorry” means meeting the offended person and seek to put things right.  For some people in positions of leadership, saying “sorry” is often seen as a weakness, but I beg to differ.  A secure leader, one who is not threatened by others, will recognise that this situation is not weakness, but a strength.

I remember walking past a church and reading a poster outside.  It said “People think being meek is weak.  Try being meek for a week.”

Let’s give meekness a try.  Let’s grow and strengthen our character; admit our faults and failings; say sorry; humble ourselves.  It won’t be easy, and I know I will have to pick myself up time and time again.  However, I know that final outcome will be worth the journey.

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About katehobbs

Mother to two who are now independant and living away from home. Wife to Steve, for the last 26yrs and looking forward to many more years. I have enjoyed 18 months in the Okanagan, something that I have longed to have the opportunity to do for a while. Living a dream, you could say. Now, I am interning with Living Waters Canada based in Vancouver until end of April 2013. I love to grow my own food - it tastes so much better. I also build up, train and encourage others to achieve more than they thought possible.
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