However, when you separate, you realise that you are completely drained.
You begin to realise that the reason is because of the company you have just kept. The attitude was negative; there was no encouragement for others; the conversation was narcissistic.
In complete contrast, you recognise that there are people in your circle of friends that energise you. You come away from them feeling good about yourself; you are enthused; your productivity goes up; you enjoy being in their company.
I love being around people, but I have to be careful that I don’t get abused by those who wish to take advantage of me. And that means putting in boundaries. This sounds a little harsh. I’d love to be able to help everyone who came to me seeking help, but I can’t. I am not able to be all to everyone. I am only one person. I cannot give of myself when I do not have time, or have other commitments, or it is not in line with my core values and beliefs.
I have to accept that it is OK to say No. This will help preserve myself and will ensure that I have the energy I need to help when I choose to.
Do you know of the energy sappers in your life? They don’t have to be people. What changes and choices are you going to make to preserve yourself?
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