It’s easy for someone to say “you’ll learn” but so hard for me to do because I believe there is one thing missing: I need to evaluate or analyse the mistake to learn from it.
There is the potential for everyone to repeat the same mistake again and again. If we are to break the cycle, then there has to be, at some point, an analysis of why this mistake is being made repeatedly. Good analysis will help me:
- see what the mistake was,
- identify why it happened,
- recognise signs or triggers that occur every time this mistake is made,
- and once recognised, see when the situation threatens to arise and make sure I don’t repeat the mistake again.
Now that looks a little easier, doesn’t it?
The same analysis of our events in the past can also help us with the bigger things in life; establishing relationships and not ruining them; bringing up our children; in our work; in our communities. Without understanding our past we cannot hope to make a better future for ourselves, and those whom we serve.
Take time, with another, to analyse more. I’m not saying that this will guarantee you won’t make any mistakes, but hopefully, you won’t be repeating many of the old ones going forward.