Lessons from Alan Hassenfeld – Self-belief and self-respect

On Friday 4th March, I watched as a friend of mine used Twitter to relay some wonderful words of wisdom from Alan Hassenfeld, former CEO of Hasbro.  Alan was guest speaker at Brandeis International Business School.

There were diamonds in what he had to say.  I’ve mined a few.  Over the next few days, I hope to bring you some of these jewels of wisdom and share them with you.

“Learn to believe in yourself and respect yourself” – Alan Hassenfeld.

I cannot count the number of people who I have met who have no belief in themselves.  This could be for a number of reasons and can include:

  • Mother or Father has verbally damaged them with words like “you’ll never amount to much”, “you are stupid”, “grow up”
  • A person in authority has embarrassed them publically, or demeaned them, often regularly
  • A bully has physically abused, or verbally abused them

It is hard to overcome this deficit of self-worth on your own.  A good leader sees the potential in someone and, with gentle encouragement, praise, motivation, care and trust, can move someone from that point of unbelief to self belief and self-respect.  That leader knows the value of self belief and self-respect because he/she lives it every day.

Alan encouraged us to believe and respect ourselves.  The internet is full of quotes about belief.  Here are a few.

  • “Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact.” – William James
  • “Belief is having a firm conviction something is true, not hoping it’s true.” – Max Lucado
  • “Belief in oneself is one of the most important bricks in building any successful venture.” Lydia M. Child

However, no matter how much encouragement or motivation is given, no matter how many quotes are read, seminars attended, or conversations had, there has to come a point when a person has to make a choice to begin to believe that change is possible.

So do you believe that change is possible?

Do you believe that belief and self-respect is a key ingredient in leadership?

Do you have any encouragement for those who have low self-belief or low self-respect?

Thank you for taking the time to visit me here.  I appreciate any feedback that you care to give. Please add a comment to introduce yourself, or add value to what I have written in this post.  Kate.

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About katehobbs

Mother to two who are now independant and living away from home. Wife to Steve, for the last 26yrs and looking forward to many more years. I have enjoyed 18 months in the Okanagan, something that I have longed to have the opportunity to do for a while. Living a dream, you could say. Now, I am interning with Living Waters Canada based in Vancouver until end of April 2013. I love to grow my own food - it tastes so much better. I also build up, train and encourage others to achieve more than they thought possible.
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1 Response to Lessons from Alan Hassenfeld – Self-belief and self-respect

  1. Steve says:

    Sadly – I’ve been there and done this myself!

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