I had an instant response from @pluckycharmed. “Re; forgiveness. I have a friend who says ‘Forgiveness is relinquishing the right to retaliate.'”
This triggered something in me. I’d heard something like this before. I went searching and found this: ‘forgiveness is relinquishing our “right” to be judge and jury. We hand the offender over to God.’
I don’t think that I have fully learned this lesson. It is often hard to forgive someone in the heat of the moment. It’s even harder, if the incident happened years before and resentment and hatred have become ingrained. For some, the resentment and hatred is all that keeps them alive. To suggest to such a person that they need to forgive is like asking them to stop living.
There is growing evidence that to hold on to such emotions changes the body’s chemical balance and illness occurs. I am not a researcher so can’t vouch for that but I have seen people who, once they have forgiven, move into better health.
So, what am I trying to say. We have all be wronged. We all have an opportunity to forgive. We all need to move to that point of being able to truly forgive. Sometimes we will need help to get to that point if we have hung onto the unforgiveness for sometime. We need to understand the affect that the unforgiveness has had on our lives, on our reactions, on our beliefs, and on our family and friends. And when we do forgive, we let go. We let go of:
- our hatred, resentment
- our desire for justice
- our desire to “get them back” for all the hurt done
- them. They are no longer bound to us.
This is a hard post to read, but I hope that it has prompted something in you, as it has in me, that needs immediate attention. I wish you well in that journey.
You can read @pluckycharmed’s blog here.
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