The Walled Garden: Do you give up easily, or press on through?

Yesterday, I went for a walk in the spring sunshine.  I found a park and followed the path to a walled garden.  I had never been here before.  Unfortunately for me, the gates were padlocked shut.  Looking through the bars, I disturbed a heron feeding at the pond right in the centre of a wonderfully kept garden, where spring bulbs and flowers were opening up to the warmth of the day.  I was disappointed that I couldn’t go into the garden, but noted the opening times.

Today, I went for a walk in the spring sunshine.  I visited the walled garden.  I didn’t have to peer in through iron gates today.  I could enter and wander around.  Yesterday, I had to glimpse at the wonder of the garden, and imagine what was growing in the places I couldn’t see.  Today, I could wander around and see if my imagining was anything like the real thing.

Being denied access to somewhere you want to go can be frustrating and disappointing.  For some, being stopped at the first step is enough.  They drop the idea and don’t consider ways to progress forward.  It’s not worth the effort.  For others, it is a case of pressing on into the situation until things change.  That takes work.

Giving up or Pressing On

Why might someone give up at the first sign of problems?

  • They do not have the right mind-set
  • They have never been shown how to persevere
  • Similar past experiences have tended to result in failure, so all they know now is to “not bother”.
  • They don’t possess the desire to learn

Why does someone choose to press on through the obstacle or problem?

  • They have a positive mind-set
  • They have been taught how to persevere
  • They have been supported and encouraged when earlier situations have arisen in the past
  • Even when situations have failed before, they have learned from them, and have chosen to try again
  • They possess a teachable attitude in all things

I would like to say here that there is a time when it is right to “withdraw gracefully” from a situation.  How might you know when that time has arrived?  It’s different for everybody, but learning from past experiences, being sure of yourself, and seeking “wise counsel” from trusted people, may help in knowing when that time is.

In all these things, keep a teachable heart.

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The lists above are not meant to be exhaustive.  Please comment and add more to the lists.

Do you recognise a tendency in yourself to give up?

Have you “withdrawn gracefully” from a situation?

How did you know that it was right to keep pressing on through an obstacle?

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About katehobbs

Mother to two who are now independant and living away from home. Wife to Steve, for the last 26yrs and looking forward to many more years. I have enjoyed 18 months in the Okanagan, something that I have longed to have the opportunity to do for a while. Living a dream, you could say. Now, I am interning with Living Waters Canada based in Vancouver until end of April 2013. I love to grow my own food - it tastes so much better. I also build up, train and encourage others to achieve more than they thought possible.
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2 Responses to The Walled Garden: Do you give up easily, or press on through?

  1. Raj Sekhar says:

    Kate, Great thoughts! Read the one Forgiveness and the walled garden. I am in agreement to all that you are saying. Both the topics are close to my heart and I have tweeted about it and hosted talks on it. Nevertheless it warmed my heart to read your blog, was encouraged by it. Raj

    • katehobbs says:

      Hi Raj
      I’d welcome any thoughts you can add. No one person has it all sorted. We have the opportunity to share and learn from each other. Let’s do that.

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