What version of you do you allow people to see? Strange question you might think. Please let me explain.
When I first met Steve, who was to become my husband, I only wanted him to see the good Kate Hobbs – Kate Hobbs No. 1, you might say. However, when we were married, Kate Hobbs No. 2 sometimes made an appearance, and certainly Kate Hobbs No. 8 started to shout around the room from time to time!
What I am trying to express is that there are many versions of ourselves. We often don’t want the worst side of ourselves to be seen. But every so often it appears. Now, I know that I can choose which version of Kate Hobbs appears at any time, and I would rather that No. 1 appeared all the time, but with friends and family they get to see every version. My work colleagues, get to see some versions but not all.
What about you?
There is a time for reality, vulnerability and honesty because no matter how hard I try, I cannot completely stop Kate Hobbs No. 8, or No. 7 or No. 6 etc., from making an appearance from time to time. If we want true friendship, true accountability, true growth and strong character, we need to learn to accept and embrace every version of ourselves. It is not healthy to completely crush parts of ourselves, because suppression is hard to maintain and can destabilise us. However, we can learn to appropriately allow No. 8, No. 7 etc., come to the surface because they are part of us.
So accept who you are, be kind to yourself and allow yourself to be fully you but work on the areas you need to in an atmosphere of reality and vulnerability.
You are fearfully and wonderfully made – after all.
How are you dealing with the dirty, unpleasant version of yourself?
What strategies have you put in place to help when version No. 8 suddenly appears?
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