Gossip – undermines and destroys

Everybody has indulged in it.  Everybody, if they were honest, would acknowledge that they actually enjoyed taking part.  Everybody hopes that they are not the subject of it.  What am I talking about?


If A equals success, then the formula is A equals X plus Y and Z, with X being work, Y play, and Z keeping your mouth shut. Albert Einstein

Who gossips with you will gossip of you Irish Proverb

Gossip is basically idle talk or rumour.  It can be founded on a truth, heresay, imagination, or a twisting truth.

Put simply, I believe gossip to be:

  • time-wasting
  • divisive
  • destructive
  • erroneous
  • hurtful
  • emotionally draining

I have found that if I entertain gossip i.e. if I stay and listen to it, then it grows.  However, I have learned that if I remove myself from the tittle-tattle then, for me, the gossip dies down, and in the end, is extinguished.

Society adores gossip.  In fact there is big business in it.  However, for a leader, it is best avoided.  It can colour decisions.  It can undermine relationships and even destroy teams.  If leaders indulge in gossip, they compromise their integrity, trust, respect and influence.

In our appetite for gossip, we tend to gobble down everything before us, only to find, too late, that it is our ideals we have consumed, and we have not been enlarged by the feasts but only diminished” Pico Iyer

So, in conclusion, to grow in strength of character, avoid gossip.

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About katehobbs

Mother to two who are now independant and living away from home. Wife to Steve, for the last 26yrs and looking forward to many more years. I have enjoyed 18 months in the Okanagan, something that I have longed to have the opportunity to do for a while. Living a dream, you could say. Now, I am interning with Living Waters Canada based in Vancouver until end of April 2013. I love to grow my own food - it tastes so much better. I also build up, train and encourage others to achieve more than they thought possible.
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2 Responses to Gossip – undermines and destroys

  1. You are right on Kate, but boy is that a hard habit to break.

    • katehobbs says:

      Yep Riley. I have to tell myself everyday “remove yourself”. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don’t.
      Thanks for the input, as always.

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