I have decided that I don’t like mosquitoes. I am sure that there is a purpose for their existence but I don’t want them to exist near me. Why is it that, in spite of spraying insect repellent on my bare skin, they proceed to bite me anyway – through my jeans!!!!
And the after effects – the itch – the histamine reaction. It’s not fair!!!!
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where there is always “someone” who, it would seem to you, has it in for you? Like the mosquito, regardless of how you ‘defend’ yourself, they have a way of getting under you skin?
Being with them just seems to cause stress, agitation, difficulties, and it sometimes gets to the point that you dread seeing them walk into the room. And it’s even worse if it’s your boss, right?
Maybe one of the reasons for the tension is because you may be different personality types. Finding out your personality type, I believe, is a worthwhile exercise. Knowing your colleagues types, and if you are in leadership, your team’s personality types will help you relate to each other, and offer understanding when things “kick off”.
Me, I’m a Sanguine (social) with some Phlegmatic (artistic). Sanguines are extroverts, optimistic, friendly and connect easily with others. Phlegmatics are lovers of peace, in contact with their emotions, and those of others. They seek harmonious relationships with everyone. They are creative.
However, there are other types to be aware of:
Chloreric (enterprising) – the controller, the “bull in a china shop” who rushes into things without thinking through the situation and is unconscious of the chaos that follows in his/her wake. They can’t understand why people don’t think and work hard, in the same way as they do.
Melancholic (investigative/conventional) – contrary to popular thinking it doesn’t always mean “miserable.” These people are perfectionists, and are very analytical.
Although knowing these personality types might not resolve the “mosquito situation”, it may help bring about better relating which, in turn, brings about a better working atmosphere. You don’t have to sit back and just take things personally, you can do some proactive research into yourself and your colleagues. I challenge you to do something that will help you understand how other people operate.
As well as doing a Google search on the above types, you may also wish to Google Myers Briggs and take an online test. Although differently worded, the sentiments/results are the same.
So what personality type are you?
How might knowing your type, and your colleagues’ types help you prevent/resolve conflict?
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