Time to finish

Nikita

This last weekend I have watched some friends of ours come to terms with the most difficult of choices – to end the life of their dog.  The dog, an elderly German Shepherd, who has been faithful and obedient throughout her life, is getting old, techy and cantankerous.

This last weekend, her owners were away and a neighbour was checking in on her.  With her routine upset, the dog bit the neighbour, and drew blood.  She had crossed the line.

Are there occasions in your life when you know that something has to end?  It could be a relationship or you may be moving away to another town or country.  Or it could be very similar to the situation my friends are experiencing.  How do you deal with that?

These things are never easy.  There will be grief.  It’s inevitable.  There may be denial and isolation, anger, depression, but at some point there will be acceptance.  These are healthy steps in the grieving process.  And you will need to grieve.  To suppress grief and to keep on going as if nothing has happened, without progressing to the other stages of grieving, will only cause you – and those around you – greater anguish.  However, it is great to be reminded of, and talk about, the good that has been achieved.  To celebrate the life, the fun, the laughs with others is a positive way of dealing with such situations.

So, if you are in the process of having to end something, then you have my sympathy.  May you find a way to celebrate the good and value those times.  And be kind to yourself.

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About katehobbs

Mother to two who are now independant and living away from home. Wife to Steve, for the last 26yrs and looking forward to many more years. I have enjoyed 18 months in the Okanagan, something that I have longed to have the opportunity to do for a while. Living a dream, you could say. Now, I am interning with Living Waters Canada based in Vancouver until end of April 2013. I love to grow my own food - it tastes so much better. I also build up, train and encourage others to achieve more than they thought possible.
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2 Responses to Time to finish

  1. This one is very nice Kate. Indeed it is very hard to accept something that we find inevitable such as loss or an end of something special to us. Again there is DABDA, Denial, Anger, Bargain, Denial and Acceptance. 😀

    Kaye

    • katehobbs says:

      Hi Kaye
      Thank you for your comment. I find the hardest thing is realising that something has to end….. and then ending it. It’s all a process. And I don’t think that there is a right way or wrong way to finish something, and then grieve for it.
      Great to see you here. You are appreciated.
      Kate

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