As you know if you have read any of my recent, but yet not regular, posts – I have helped out a couple on their cherry orchard. It has been wonderful to see how our efforts in getting the cherries in has meant that this wonderful couple have been able to sell regularly to walk-in customers and fulfill large orders placed by food stores.
Last week, I thought that we had finished, there being no other large orders to meet. Steve and I left saying that if anything changed, they could call us and we would be back. We heard nothing. On Monday evening, I phoned them just to chat and was informed that another large order had been placed. I challenged them as to why they hadn’t phoned but their response was one of “we thought you had done enough for us.” We were there next morning early and back to work.
I must confess that I was a little saddened that our friends did not think that they could ask us for help again. For whatever reason, whether pride, laziness, shame not making that phone call could have meant that they missed the order. As we talked about things that morning, I hoped that they realised Steve and I were sincere in our offer and that they could ask us for help.
Having said all this – I did not realise that I was being taught exactly the same lesson of not being too proud to ask for help! Steve and I would like to live longer in Canada, and to be able to work here. We are talking to immigration about the options. However, the other day, someone said to us “What can we do to help you stay here?”
I struggled to answer the question, believing that I had no right to ask for something that might mean a major commitment from them. I had to put my pride aside. I had to give up my shame of not being able to do things on my own. I had to honestly tell them what they could do to help. The answer was a big one and I felt very awkward in supplying it.
But I was being taught that I, too, need to ask and to receive it graciously. Funny how these things turn around to bite us in the……..
How have you learned the lesson to ask and receive?
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