This is an interesting question because worry takes up energy and I am learning that I often worry about stuff that hasn’t yet happened and may never happened! I’m sure you are the same. Also, it is a recognised thing that worrying can make you ill. I don’t want to go there.
So, is there a list grading things to worry about and what might it look like? I’ve decided that this would be my list.
On the lower end of the scale I would put things like:
- What clothes to wear today
- What food to eat
To worry about such things, to me, is a definite waste of energy.
Next, then I would list:
- State of the country
- State of society
Some of these items I have no control over. To be concerned about them is one thing but to worry about them, when I have no way of changing things, is a major waste of my time and energy. I’m not saying we should not look to see how we can change things but because we can’t change the ‘whole’ in one go, then to get to a point of constant anxiety and illness is not a good thing.
High on my list would be such things as:
- Family member involved in a traffic accident or diagnosed with terminal illness
- Someone/something of value that is lost/stolen
Notice that this last section is really ’emergency’ worry. There is no expectation that I will not worry about such things but that the period of worry will be short-lived. To worry that a family member of mine will be involved in an accident is a waste of my energy. It brings us back to the beginning – it might not happen! And I need to know and recognise that I can’t save the world or my family.
So in conclusion – worry happens. Constant worry is unnecessary and certainly unhealthy. There are some things that I cannot prevent and I need to live one day at a time, in the present, for tomorrow has enough troubles of its own.
What would be your list of ‘worries’?
How do you cope with worry?
- Why you shouldn’t worry (muthablogga.co.za)