- moving from the home we are currently in to another in Penticton OR
- moving to Victoria, Vancouver Island, BC OR
- going back to the UK
Moving is a certainty. One of the above is a certainty, and to be honest, the only one I really want to face is the first. Why? I feel more in control of that one as opposed to the other scenarios. Also, I have grown to love Penticton and in the last year I have made many, many dear friends. The thought of leaving them hurts, and like everyone else, I don’t want to hurt.
I know that change is inevitable, but it does not stop the fear of the unknown creeping in. For me, this is my biggest issue. I am someone who does not like surprises, and would like to have everything laid out and listed so that I know where I should be by when, and with whom.
So, I could:
- live in denial
- accept it but become anxious about all the details
- accept it and look at the positive outcomes that I have experienced, and could experience in the future.
- Enjoy the process.
I know that I have a choice to make in how I deal with this phase of my life.
Living in denial will not remove the situation, as much as I would like things to stay the same, so I would be wasting energy on trying to stop the inevitable. King Canute comes to mind!!!
Accepting things but being anxious is not going to help me either. I could get stressed, and this increases things like blood pressure, and other illnesses. I’ve already alluded to the problems that prolonged chemical changes can do to the body. (Note: I am not a medical professional)
Accepting and recognising the positives: Now this sounds like something I could do. Perhaps I need to make a “Gratitude List”, something that has been brought to my attention again recently by a blogging friend called Buckwheatsrisk. Check out her post for how this could work. If negativity can have harmful effects on the body, it goes to say that positivity should have the opposite and be good for me!
Enjoy the process. There is so much to learn in all of this. I’d like to think that, when I look back on this time in my life, I will have changed for the better. It will fun to see in what ways.
Do you have any more thoughts or opinions about processing change that I could consider? I’d love to hear them.