You have either come across these words, or you haven’t; two Greek words which have similar meanings and are not found regularly in dictionaries or even in people’s vocabulary. Yet, you will recognise their effects and realise that all of us, in some shape of form, have been a receiver and/or an active participant in them.
Let’s start with the basics. What do they mean?
Misogyny – literally translated means “hated of women”.
Misandry – literally translated means “hatred of men”.
In the next few posts, I’m going to write about them as they pertain to me. I am going to process these acts in my life and their effects on me. I will also tell how I have actively participated in both, either consciously and unconsciously.
We are all victims
Whether we like it or not, we have all been victims of these acts. You may not recognise them at all because they can be very subtle but let me give you some examples:
- Name calling
- sexist jokes/comedy
All of the above can apply to both men and women.
We are all guilty
We may not have actually been guilty of all forms, but I am sure that when you start reading how I participated in these acts, you will see similarities in your life. It’s the subtle things that are the most common. It was the subtle things that trapped me.
I would like to say here that I am not the victim of physical abuse, or any of the “most serious forms” of misogyny and misandry. However, I am a victim and an offender regarding the more subtle forms. It is quite possible that, after having read my posts, you will see things going on around you that you had not noticed before. If we are not shown these things, we cannot hope to change them.
I am not an ardent feminist, nor am I a woman who bends over backwards with tolerance. I see these posts on “Processing …” as a way of helping me work through stuff that is in my life in a healthy way.
This stuff always brings reaction. For some it may be an “aha” moment; for others it may be a completely different response.
And I don’t expect everyone to agree with me either……….
I’ll write more in a couple of days……. in the meantime, here are some questions you may wish to consider and comment on.
Were the words Misogyny and Misandry already familiar to you?
Looking at some of the list above, are you already seeing some of these things in your life?
If so, what?