Processing – Raising Support

It’s strange that I find myself in this place.  I have always been one who has been happy to give of my time, energy and money to see others benefit.  However, when the roles are reversed, it is very hard to come to terms with.

This is my situation.  My wonderful husband and I left the UK and came to Canada 14 months ago.  It was a heart’s desire, and because we believed that we were supposed to take a risk, trust God, and go for it.  We didn’t exactly know what we were coming to, but we were to take that risk and just go.

We arrived and have, over the last year, sought what to do next.  Doors have opened and closed, but one remains open.  Living Waters Canada is a para-church organisation/charity running discipleship courses for the relationally and sexually broken.  We knew of Living Waters from taking courses ourselves in the UK so to make connection here in Canada was a natural thing to do.

We have been offered an internship with Living Waters but we need to raise our own support to fund ourselves while we take up this unpaid position.  We can provide for a several months ourselves, but our money/savings will run out before the end of our internship.  So we need to find support.  That’s where the battle lies.  I have given so often before, but now I need to ask for help and to receive it myself.  It’s not a comfortable place to be in.

And, if we are to continue with Living Waters afterwards, either back in the UK or elsewhere, we will need continued funding for the next few years.

So, we are at the beginning of raising funds and it is not easy.  It’s embarrassing asking friends and family here and in the UK for help/support.  It’s painful when there is rejection.  It’s difficult to answer questions from those you believe knew you and loved you personally who want to know more about the organisation, and not just give to YOU.  It’s scary to hear that the UK financial situation is getting worse and that this is the reason many people are not giving.  It’s unfortunate that no corporation wants to support a charity like Living Waters and the people who serve it.

I suppose I came at this with naivety.  I thought that family would not question but just give.  I thought those who had been through Living Waters themselves, would just give.  I see it’s much harder.

Am I being selfish?  Am I being judgemental?  Am I being naive?

“Missionary” work is hard!!!

Anyone out there with some pearls of wisdom who can help me work through this?  I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments box below.


About katehobbs

Mother to two who are now independant and living away from home. Wife to Steve, for the last 26yrs and looking forward to many more years. I have enjoyed 18 months in the Okanagan, something that I have longed to have the opportunity to do for a while. Living a dream, you could say. Now, I am interning with Living Waters Canada based in Vancouver until end of April 2013. I love to grow my own food - it tastes so much better. I also build up, train and encourage others to achieve more than they thought possible.
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10 Responses to Processing – Raising Support

  1. It is a hard time for ministries as folks cut back. We have had to drop off some parachurch sponsorship for that very reason. My fall back position is one Pastor Chuck Smith in CA used to say: “Where God guides, He provides.” That is not as powerful or true a statement when you are young as when you are older. I pray God gives you direction and provision to move where He calls and that you are surprised by His working becasue so often He has a much better idea than ours. 🙂

  2. Jude says:

    Not really sure about this one Kate. I’m trying to imagine how I would feel if a friend of mine asked for money for a cause. First it would depend on whether the person was a close friend or an acquaintance. Next it would depend on my own financial situation. And lastly it may depend on what they wanted the money for. I have to be completely honest and say that the word church does not sit well with me personally. I’m horribly anti most conventional religions. I also completely accept that others are different and choose a different path. I’ve just been thinking what I’d do if my best friend asked me … and yes, if it was something she really wanted and needed I’d do it.

    • katehobbs says:

      Hi there Jude. I really appreciate your comment here. I can understand the ‘turn-off” with church so my personal faith may have influenced things. However, I am grateful that you have tried to be balanced in your answer.
      It isn’t easy for either the person asking and the one being asked, not matter what the situation/cause. I am attempting to put myself in other shoes (and I should be able to because I have been asked often enough!)
      There are no easy answers, and my post was written right at the point of me experiencing these emotions. Not always good to put pen to paper immediately without a cooling off period!!!
      Great to see you here Jude. I love reading your thoughts.

  3. Jude says:

    Kate I really wish you the very best of luck with this dream – and I feel sure you have what it takes to get there. Go for it girl!

    • katehobbs says:

      Thank you Jude. We will keep pushing this door until it is closed on us. So far, it remains the only one open.
      You’ve been through a similar situation, with your move to France, so I know you have some understanding of wanting to stay in a place you love.

  4. bert0001 says:

    Maybe this gem of wisdom that i found this early morning will help you with your feelings:
    Being rejected always feels odd. Being open handed, means also being open minded. Don’t let yourself be closed by a simple and honnest NO. An honnest NO is better than an insincere yes, for ulterior motives, or for feeling obliged.

  5. Sunshine says:

    Not sure what to say so I will pray that God bring abundant wisdom and blessings to you…

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